Nik give as much info as poss, esp where these issues are concerned- what happened, what did you do, say, etc. what did Charlie do,etc
the more info the better, waffle if needbe, everyone can sort through what is needed and what isnt.
Chin up hon, I have a springer that will happily kill things given half a chance – it taken me a looong time to get her under control, and even now she has bursts of extinction when the mood takes her.
You will get there with him, but you need Bev’s help :-*