Laura, I really, really feel for what you are going through – you know me and Rafe have been going through hell the past few months, so I know what it feels like.
The only advice I can give you is for you, not really Dodger – get some Rescue Remedy spray. When Rafe and I were going through Crazy Lady heel close nightmare, I’d be almost in tears by the time I got to the bottom of the road – tense, screaming into my gloves because it was driving me mad! And no doubt that didn’t help him. So – rescue remedy just takes the edge off it. Just a couple of sprays in the mouth when you feel you’re ready to scream.
The other thing that really helped me was to us one of those long training leads – Claire, what are they really called?? Not so he can be a long way away, but one that you can loop round your shoulder and clip back on itself – leaves both hands free. Found that enormously helpful. You will find that your tension kinda goes away a bit if you aren’t gripping on a lead at all. plus it leaves one hand for clicker and one for treats.
It’s worth a try!
Also – am keeping watching this coz R has a bit of a tendency to charge up to everyone, it ain’t top priority right now though!